Love Hurts Report

Of course your relationship has issues! The meeting of two such powerful personalities is bound to strike sparks. Your lover likely excites you like no other. This force of nature tends to be impulsive and fearless, lusty and straightforward, with a confidence that rivals your own. Together and apart you stride through your lives with a daring that others can only wonder at. When you are united you live a life writ large -- but unfortunately, your conflicts rival your passion. Titanic arguments, friction, a link that always seems to be teetering on self-destruction -- you never heard love was easy, but does it have to be this hard? One of you has to learn to give. You can't struggle over everything or you'll waste your prodigious energies just treading water rather than moving forward. And since you're the more gentle-natured, it's probably going to be you who has to accept what you cannot change. Stop hounding your lover over issues that are mere annoyances instead of true deal-breakers. If you can manage to quell your troublesome quibbling, you and your lover could really have something special.

You bagged yourself one great big trophy of a lover, but it doesn't mean your mate's easy to live with. Intense and compelling, magnetic and driven, your sweetie's a star but requires special handling. The two of you are often at odds. There's tension between you. Frictio. Fights. You want things defined and taped down; your lover's more of a 'If it feels good, do it' type. And that makes you feel insecure. So you say too much, demand reassurance, embarrass yourself. Here's a tip: When you ask if you're loved or adored, you suddenly become a lot less lovable and adorable. Much of the problem is related to your past. Think carefully -- are you unconsciously repeating patterns? Are you treating your lover more like a parent than a partner? If so, you'll find your attitude causes problems galore, not the least because a lover's supposed to be a friend and an equal, not an authority figure to rebel against. Examine your actions in light of your childhood. Seeing some familiar patterns now? It's time to move forward. What's done is done, and you can't mar your future in futile attempts to change history.

The two of you just can't seem to make a go of it. You're suspicious of each other. You don't see eye-to-eye. You, in particular, view your mate with a kind of contempt. That slippery, glib sweetie of yours can be a lot of fun, but seems awfully insubstantial. You can't get the kind of security you crave. It feels as if your lover won't commit. Worse, they have an awful tendency to blurt out the wrong thing in the wrong moment, and let loose some uncomfortable, unvarnished truths that linger in your mind long after the moment has passed. The key to your problems lies in your past, both distant and recent. Problems you faced long ago have left their marks. You're closed where you should be open, secretive and distant where you should be accepting and warm. You're not going to get anywhere on your current path -- why do you hold on so tightly to old, negative patterns? Some work on yourself will result in a sweet thaw between you two. Your lover is waiting for a cue to let loose a torrent of love; all you need do is open up and let it in.

You and your sweetie are an unusual match. There are ways that it's working for you, as well as ways you're bugged by the differences between you. Most of your problems are connected with the schism between your personalities. You see your lover as rather egotistic and indulgent, while you're seen as stingy and pessimistic. You're both right, to an extent. But there's another side to your differences; mainly that they complement each other. Your lover's presence causes you to open up and laugh more, while you act as a stabilizing reality check on your sweetie's worst impulses. Even so, knowing that doesn't help you get along better in your day-to-day interactions. One of the biggest problems you face is your own insecurities. You view your lover as somehow more important or special than you. It makes you feel like you don't have the right to expect an equal voice in the relationship. But your mate desires a partner, not a child to nourish and scold. You are every bit as worthy as your sweetie -- start asking for what you want, and putting in as much time on your own goals as your partner's. A little energy put in these directions will yield great rewards.

You grabbed a live wire when you found this lover, and you're still feeling the effects -- you're electrified, yet stunned. You worry that you can't trust your sweetie. You wonder what your mate is up to when you're not there to watch. You may even have caught yourself doing a little more snooping than you feel really comfortable with. The problem, of course, lies in the time when you're together, not when you're apart. If things were really great between you, you'd have nothing to worry about. So...are they? Or is your jealousy and insecurity tearing you apart? Do you demand to hear 'I love you' when your mate isn't in the mood to say it? Do you ask for promises that, unwillingly given, can never really be given? Buckle yourself in and enjoy the ride. Your lover will always be apt to shake things up. You can never have the calm security that you think you want. But another name for security is boredom, and you won't have that either. This lover won't settle for another less than passion and zing, and if you choose to hang around, that's just what you'll get.

You're overawed by your sweetie, and it's led to some rather embarrassing situations. You've said too much, revealed your unattractive feelings too nakedly, and it's left you feeling rather humiliated. It doesn't help that your lover's so imprudent and rash, impatient to gloss over any problems without learning the lessons they have to impart. You may be feeling as if you can't recover from the blows, as if you've revealed your hand and now you're irretrievably damaged in your lover's eyes. But your fears are mostly just your own insecurities. Your mate isn't really interested in searching beneath the surface; if things are going okay in the day-to-day sense, the subtleties and gradations you see don't really exist for your partner. Still, the frustration you're feeling needs an outlet. Why not pour your emotions into physicality? In that arena of your relationship, you and your partner are in delicious harmony at last. Stop withholding your affections, and allow yourself to relax into your lover's embrace. A little time spent shoring up your physical connection can yield good feelings that will leak into other, more troublesome facets of your lives together.

With no quincunxes -- one type of stressful planetary connection -- between you, there's good news: It's safe to say that you two are together purely because you want to be. You aren't drawn to each other for some deep, unfathomable reason; your mutual attraction is bold and aboveboard -- and what a relief! After all, plenty of couples are pulled together by forces even they don't understand, forces like karma and unconscious, psychological urges that stem from their deep pasts. This doesn't mean that you two don't have relationship issues to work out; every couple has them. The previous chapters in this report will help you to clarify and understand the issues you face together, and how you can use these challenges for growth and positive transformation. For example, you each bring your own unique family conditioning and relationship history into your current pairing. But these are issues you can think about, talk about and work on together with great openness and awareness. And frankly, these types of problems are a lot easier to work through than karmic baggage that's been carried forward from previous lives that you can't even remember, much less articulate. One area of difficulty you two may experience together, however, concerns the issue of compromise. Every successful relationship requires that both partners learn the art of give-and-take. With no quincunxes forcing you to learn to adjust to each other's quirks, flexibility and compromise may not come easily for you two. But with practice, each of you can learn the cues that will let you know when it's time to back down from an issue or give your sweetie center stage for the good of the relationship. So, consider yourselves fortunate among couples. There's no heavy odor of karmic debt permeating the air of your relationship; the problems you face together are rooted in this lifetime, and can be worked through in this lifetime, too. You two can bring great awareness to each other, and if you can lear

Alone, in your most private of moments, you and your lover are quite a match. Your hearts beat as one, your touch makes your mate melt, etc. etc. But out of the bedroom things are not so rosy. There is much dissension between you and your mate, likely centered either on your social lives or careers. You are sensual and expansive, attractive to others and often surrounded by a crowd. Your mate, on the other hand, tends to be more reserved and conservative, needs more alone time, and is a bit punishing. Together you have a tendency to play parent-child, with the one playing the parent switching off from time to time. Both of you must learn to temper your tendencies towards extremism. You actually have much to learn from each other if you can stop fighting each other's influences and instead learn what you can from your differences. You could stand to be more directed; your sweetie could certainly lighten up a bit. Why not call a truce? Let the sweet harmony you feel physically radiate out to the other areas of your relationship as you learn to treat each other with more consideration and kindness.